What this means is that the Handsome Holy Tribal Man gameworld is not a gateway to the adulthoodhealing-and-initiationnonmaterial-value next culture of Archiarchy. Instead the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (and Woman) gameworld - as if by accident - leads you into putting your money into the Handsome Holy Tribal Man's (and Woman's) bank account, while trying to keep you wounded or confused enough to continue needing the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman), as a role model in your life, and hopefully convinces you to recommend them to your friends.
The last thing a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) would consider doing is replacing themselves. Oh, no. That place in the Coolness Hierarchy? It is reserved for them, and them alone. They sacrificed a lot to attain that glory. After finally gaining entry into the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) Club, their job is to collect 'lambs' into their circle and hope they become Patreon donators.
The private lunch room at a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) Conference feels like the private lunch room at the World Economic Forum in Davos.
Once you are a certified Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) you can advertise each other's workshops and pow-wows through your own social media channels because each of your own people who joins another Handsome Holy Tribal Man's or Woman's activities earns you an affiliate fee.
This is business as usual. Show business.
The show must go on, because the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (and Woman) uses mainstream capitalist patriarchal empire thoughtware: "I need enough money to survive."
If you have good looks and an extrovert personality, you can milk the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) Survival Strategy to make enough money to survive.
But what are you teaching your 'students' except to stay in survival like you are, and to imitate an arrogant insider's glimmer of someone who has figured how how to get others to pay to receive their 'Members Only' texts.
Each human being requires an effective Survival Strategy to make it through childhood, school, church, the family, and adolescence. Having been raised in a worldview where good/bad and right/wrong are fundamental catechisms, it can be a tough leap to be clear that there is nothing good/bad or right/wrong about a Survival Strategy. It is merely a Survival Strategy
If you are older than 18 years of age and you are reading this, then your Survival Strategy worked, no matter which of the 18 Standard Boxes you used. You survived.
Now you can enter the Path of authentic adulthood initiatory processes. You can release your physical and psycho-emotional Baggage and Build enough Matrix in your Being that your Survival Strategy can fall off like the chrysalis falls of the back of a butterfly.
But without authentic adulthood initiatory processes, the Survival Strategy stays gripped to you like an abalone grips a rock.
In other words, you are fake, terrified of being found out, the same as anyone trying to interface with the world at large through a childhood Survival Strategy.
The uninitiated suffer incredibly, especially while pretending they are not suffering.
USING CAPITALIST PATRIARCHAL EMPIRE THOUGHTWARE
It may trigger healthy feelings and emotions in you to recognize how thoroughly the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) Survival Strategy uses capitalist patriarchal empire thoughtware.
Here you have it: the great American fan show scam. The idea is that if you can collect other people's centers, if you can be special enough, if they will be adaptive enough, if you can put on a show that is attractive enough, mysterious enough... if you can appear rags-to-riches 'successful' and 'happy' simply by being 'cool', others will want to gather around you to 'be cool' too. And they will pay you money just to be around your 'coolness'. Then all you have to do is keep being 'cool' and your fans will support you.
The problem with this - and all other - Survival Strategies is that, yes, you get to survive, but you do not get to be authentically alive as you. You must keep the fake show going to keep your fans satisfied, tantalized by your endless manufactured 'coolness'. You have to keep generating 'cool legends' to stay in the race instead of doing what E.C.C.O. or your Archetypal Lineage invite you to do.
The important thing is that you cannot actually allow any of your fans or followers to become as 'cool' as you, because then they might collect up their own fans and surpass you, leaving you out in the cold. The hidden but tacitly obvious strategy of the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (and Woman) is to pretend to offer your fans evolution, or transformation, or realization, or healing, or happiness... but you do not really do it. This would put you at risk. Anyone Navigating Authentic Transformational Spaces is at risk of losing everything, because that is what Authentic Transformation is about: you become something utterly different time-after-time, endlessly, leaving everything behind each step of the way.
This means that your 'success' as a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) only continues through ongoingly deceiving your fans into thinking they are actually getting something new and 'cool' from you even though they are not. What they get is to be in the club of your fans. But what they get is not new. It is same old, same old, painted 'cool'. People willing to become your fans carry the same deep inner terror of evolution as you do. That is why they feel glad to band together under your authority as your fans. They don't actually want change. They want 'coolness'.
This arrangement costs you the chance to deliver what you actually came here to deliver. Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) is only the illusion of expanded awareness. It is not authentic expanded awareness. But continuously generating the illusion of expanded awareness and 'being cool' occupies so much of your time and attention that there is no time and attention left for going through the 5 Body Liquid States of Building Matrix, dropping Baggage, and unifying your Parts that is central to the Path of Evolution in Adulthood.
Handsome Hold Tribal Man (or Woman) includes the following Thoughtware:
The Handsome Holy Tribal Man (and Woman) places a high value on money, and believes in the catechism, "I need money to live." This capitalistic thoughtware drives you to do whatever it takes to get that money. Your show business is how you obtain the money. Here is the test: If you did not get the money for the show you put on, would you continue to put on the show and sacrifice the rest of your life to keep the show going? Capital is your primary value, and you value it more than living as a Free And Natural Adult.
Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) is a hierarchical leader / follower gameworld. A culture designed around the 'leader / follower, hierarchical-authority' paradigm is, by default, patriarchal. Whether those near the top are males or females does not matter. Although the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) hierarchy is less about 'power over others who are lower in the hierarchy' (which is the focus of corporate, governmental, religious, military, medical, and educational hierarchies) and more about 'coolness', it is still patriarchal leader / follower hierarchy.
Empire is about conquering and including more and more territory into your possession, and replacing local values with your own values. Whoever has the most 'coolness' territory when he or she dies, wins. Your 'coolness' is not valuable to the inhabitants of your conquered territories. It is only valued by those against whom you are competing to see who can get the most hits on their Instagram uploads.
As you lie there on your deathbed, looking back over your life being a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman), what will you leave behind? The whole time, it was all about you. You arranged it so that everyone (including yourself...) focused on you. And? This is your legacy? A highly polished mirror in which you stared, hour-after-hour, day-after-day, always asking the same question: "Mirror, mirror, on the wall... who's the 'coolest' of them all?"
What does the mirror say now?
How To Be Fake
How to be one of the Handsome Holy Tribal Men (or Women)
Have you considered that the 'problem' is not that you are incapable of Commitment, but to the contrary, you are absolutely Committed to being something fake? For example, a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or an Angel Goddess Shaman Tribal Workshop Leader Woman).
Your commitment to fakeness shows up as an almost-authentic declaration that you are really trying.
When fiercely clear feedback arrives, you might hear yourself saying, "I hear you. Your question lands and burns."
Making such statement brings you nothing. No good points from the Team. If anyone believes you, they just got caught in your game. They think, "Oh, he is really trying," and leave you alone. They lose, and you lose.
The only indicator that anyone can have that the feedback you received has indeed 'landed in you' and is indeed 'burning your Bullshit to dust' is when you start causing New Results and the feedback coming back to you changes. Who you are is what you are causing to happen 'over there' in other people's experience of you, regardless of how big a hero you are in your own mind.
Feeling compelled to Declare how dedicated you are to the Path, indicates your Commitment to your fakeness. The Declaration comes from your Box-defending Gremlin, and is an attempt to deceive others in addition to yourself. Your claim does not create new results in the world.
If you can detect the Experiential sensations of your fakeness moving to defend itself, there is a chance that you can slip sideways (orthogonally) through that Gap and cause more authentic connection, and results that are closer to your true calling.
Assume that your fakeness is at work 80%, 90%, more probably 95% of the time. It is probably worse than you thought.
Would you rather keep the Bullshit? Or start over from zero in the nothingness?
We will see...
SELF DECEPTION: EMBRACING THE SHOW AS IF IT IS REAL
The steps for becoming a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) include the following elements. You can feel them happening to you one-by-one. Which ones are you secretly seeking? Which steps have you already accomplished? How deeply has this memetic virus taken you over?
I keep looking around to discover a 'Coolness Hierarchy' that might be possible for me to join and climb.
I pay to participate in public workshops and trainings from several of the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Women) in the 'Coolness Hierarchy' that my Gremlin thinks he / she can climb. The higher up they are in that 'Coolness Hierarchy', the better chances I have if I am ever 'Discovered'.
I pay whatever it costs to participate in Special Events, Inner Circle Calls, Members Only Functions. It is worth spending more money right now if I am eventually 'seen'.
I zero in on my 'Coolness Hierarchy Gatekeeper'. I try to connect personally with them, using everything I can offer to tempt them to believe in my 'Coolness'.
I participate in any alternative events my 'Coolness Hierarchy Gatekeeper' recommends so that they receive extra kudos and affiliate fees.
I am finally accepted into the 'Coolness Hierarchy' as an 'apprentice'. I have been 'discovered'! Someone who is already in the 'Coolness Hierarchy' brings me under their wing. They are high enough in the 'Coolness Hierarchy' that if they promote me, I can be accepted by the others gathered around my 'Coolness Hierarchy Gatekeeper'. Then I will already 'be someone'.
I do whatever it takes to please my 'Coolness Role Model'. I try to not be a groupie but rather to be one of their true fans.
I can feel myself becoming 'someone' in the scene because already others are starting to acknowledge my 'Coolness'. They want me to bring them into my 'Coolness Circle' so they can 'be someone' in this 'Coolness Hierarchy' too.
I start my own 'Coolness Circle' in the 'Coolness Hierarchy'.
People register to follow me. People interview me. People pay actual money each month to receive my 'Members Only' offerings. People start donating to my Patreon account.
There are only a few Handsome Holy Tribal Men (and Women) in the Popular Speakers Circle because there are a limited number of places at the top of this 'Coolness Hierarchy'. This is my next goal. I keep trying to connect with those in the Popular Speakers Circle.
The more I am trusted by those at the top of the of Handsome Holy Tribal Men (and Women) 'popular speaker circuit', the more I gain access into the Inner Circle. To join, I make an unspoken pact: to help each other hide our fakeness and our deep fears of being discovered. I will not betray the illusion that we are really something special.
If my fakeness is revealed it would Pull The Rug Out from under my position in the 'Coolness Hierarchy'. Then my 'passive income' generator would suddenly vanish in a hurricane of intrigue, and I would be out on the street, living under a bridge. I would have to get a 'real job' to have enough money to live. I don't want to have a real job, because I would lose the perks that I have now... the recognition, the vague mystique, the women (or men) languishing around my feet making enticing invitations for coitus.
I made it. I am successful. Conference organizers and famous interviewers pay me to be a keynote speaker at their functions. Publishing companies offer to provide me with a ghost writer to author a book they can sell.
I secretly compete for fame and power with the Handsome Holy Tribal Men (and Women) who are in other 'Coolness Hierarchies'. I compete because this is an 'I win, you lose' game. Obviously there are a limited number of clients. If the other Handsome Holy Tribal Men (or Women) get the Clients into their corral, then I whither die. So I do whatever it takes to get the clients into my corral! Clients are powerless stupid Marks. My real enemies are the other Handsome Holy Tribal Men (and Women).
Even after all this, I still feel so alone.
How To Die
How to exit being one of the Handsome Holy Tribal Men (or Women)
It is possible to escape from the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) Survival Strategy.
Possible... but NOT easy. NOT comfortable. NOT pain free.
But neither is it pain free or comfortable to escape from ANY of the other Survival Strategy. Did you ever compassionately watch a tiny chick hatch its way out of its eggshell? Did you ever sit and commiserate with a butterfly fighting to escape from its chrysalis? You should do it. Sit there for a few hours and be with these animals as they struggle to shift from one paradigm to another. It is exactly what you have been trying to hide from all along.
Transformation is a life AND death struggle. You long for one part to die in the same moment as you long for another part to wake up and come alive.
To escape from the Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman)Survival Strategy, you have no other options but to engage in the archetypal Death and Resurrection Show. (where the Resurrection part is not guaranteed...) The Survival Strategy will not let you go until it dies, until its imperatives do not matter to you anymore. This is how you can tell it is dead. Your adulthood initiation processes could necessarily center around Decontaminating your Adult Egostate from your Child Egostate, or Parent Egostate, or Gremlin Egostate, or Demon Egostate, or some combination of the above.
Transformation is not a method. If steps are followed, then whatever you are calling 'transformation' never leaps into the void and gets free of the gravitational pull towards 'normal'. The Mystery weaves Transformation, not your mind.
Each individual's processes are as unique as they are, and we are ALL unique. Probably somewhere along the line, if you are to do this for real, if you are to succeed (both 'ifs' are VERY BIG 'ifs'...), then you may encounter some or all of the following (plus a large variety of auxiliary Authentic Adulthood Initiatory and HealingProcess) and will rely on amazing coincidences and a good amount of luck...
Keep documenting in your Beep! Book what you discover so that you can give it away to more people clearly and powerfully in Articles, Film Scripts, Websites, WorkTalks, Workshops, Theater Pieces, Trainings, and Books.
Do NOT open an account to receive donations through Patreon or any other such platform. Simply refuse to do it. Your are not a victim to be rescued by 'those who want to support the starving artists'. Causing valuable evolutions, healings, and transformations is a fulltime and well-rewarded Archan occupation. Close your Patreon account if you have opened one already.
Clearly, repeatedly, and publicly assign everything you generate to be Copyleft, protected by a Creative Commons Attribute and Share-Alike International 4.0 License. This is the kind of Treasure that grows by giving it away.
Whatever you create is dedicated to feeding the Creative Commons. This is how you add transformational catalytic elements to the Human Morphogenetic Field. This is how you upgrade Human Thoughtware.
Refuse to establish 'Members Only' content. Give everything away for free to everyone, especially your 'best' stuff. You think it came from you? Think again. Your contributions all come from the Infinite Resources behind you that you have been fortunate enough to jack into. Your stuff is NOT yours. It never was yours. Yes, you must pay Attention and Stay Awake and Work to Cavitate and be the Space through which your Bright Principles and Archetypal Lineage can do their work in the world. But you get 'paid' in the process: the work is ecstatic, and you are rich in coincidences (unusually lucky), and something like 10% of the energy coming through you goes to charge-up your Deep Batteries so you can Navigate Transformational Spaces.
Stay in the mud. The evolution of consciousness is, has been, and will always be radical transformational guerilla street theater. You must stay in the street to do it. Stay in the mud. Refuse to go into the palace. Does Merlin sit in the palace? No. He just bows out and goes to do the next job on his bench.
Do not look for anyone else to understand what you are going through. This is your own work. You are designed for this. You are designed to escape from your Survival Strategy and grow up. You are designed to be a Free And Natural Adult collaboratively interacting with extraordinary and Archetypal Domains. You have not even begun...
You are a genius. Stop trying to use any of your genius tricks to make things easier for you. There are no shortcuts on the Path. You must pay full price. There are many paths up the mountain, but there is no mountain. It is impossible to look good, so forget about trying to look good. Transformation happens through looking bad. This is the Learning Team, not the 'Looking Good' Team. You used your tricks to slide through school without even trying. This is not school. There are no right answers anymore. Put your tricks back in your bag and stay simple, connected, and Present. Be on the Team even with the Blue Brains, or Green Brains.
We are all in this sinking ego boat together. Realize that you are in a boat that can sink if we do not all row together. If they do not make it, then none of us makes it. I succeed through you succeeding. I heal through you healing. This is a Winning Happening game.
Notice the lack of Conscious Anger in the people around you. They do not have enough Rage to take Radical Action, to make a different Decision, to be a Person Of Agency. People are sleeping Zombies, dedicating their life energy to participating in gameworlds without identifying the values of those gameworlds. Instead of being an Experimenter who Cavitates and Inhabits new culture space, they are obeying the rule of law of western civilization and exterminating life on Earth at the fastest possible rate. They cannot say, "Yes," or, "No," or, "Stop!" or, "Go!" They do not have Integrity. They do not respect their own Word. They are terrified of Speaking Out and being visible by trying something different. How can you get enough Rage back in your 5 Bodies to actually live in the world instead of just trying to manage to survive?
Absolutely refuse to allow anyone to give you their Center. Each time you Notice this happening, or better yet, each time you Notice this is about to happen, make a clear Boundary. Say, "Stop It! I do not want your Center."
It is NOT other people's job to police you to not do all the subtle Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman) behaviors. By the time they catch you doing it again (...and again) it is far too late for you to choose something else. Catching yourself is your job. You do this through a strong Practice of neutral Self Observation, documenting what you find in your Beep! Book, and expediting your next Experiment.
If you even start thinking about ending your Survival Strategy career as a Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman), your circle of friends will radically change. Those who do not want to go on their own evolutionary journey will silently slip away and migrate to the fan club of another (perhaps even more popular) Handsome Holy Tribal Man (or Woman). The hint is to let them go gracefully. Even if they are angry with you for changing, for abandoning them, for causing them to have to go find someone else on whom to Project their mommy or daddy, on whom to have Expectations, even if they Resent you and somehow plot Revenge against you, keep slowly spinning your Energetic Body to let the barbs go past you, and keep loving them. You can Radically Rely on the Archetypal Forces which you are becoming friends with.
Get rid of all the mirrors in your house. Stay mirror-free for a year or more. Don't worry if when you accidentally see your reflection you do not recognize what you see. Yes, you may feel afraid about that. If you do, ask yourself if have you ever felt that fear before. If you have, then your fear is not a feeling. Your fear is an emotion. Emotional Fear is a Doorway to your next Emotional Healing Process (EHP). Write your fear down in the back pages of your Beep! Book (so you can easily find them again) and create the opportunity as soon as possible to do your Emotional Healing Process.
The people in your Circle are NOT your 'clientele' whom you milk for all you can get. Your Circle are the people you love to Journey with on the Path. You are not the center of their Journey. They are. You are on your Journey. They are on their Journey. For a while now, you get to Journey together. It is an honor for both of you to have this opportunity.
When anyone in your Circle needs something that no one else in the Circle can provide for them, you all work together to send them to someone else in another Circle who can give them what they need right now. In this way you are weaving Critical Connections in the Global Transformational Village, connecting Circle to Circle, and exchanging Nonmaterial Value. By exchanging Nonmaterial Value over Critical Connections between Communities Of Practice you generate a Field Of Influence for the emergence of Next Culture. Next Culture is Archiarchy, the regenerative Nonmaterial-Value Adulthood-Initiation-centered cultures emerging around the world now that Matriarchy and Patriarchy have run their course. Then your Circle earns its place in the global Team of Evolutionary Gameworlds.
Your personal objective is to Replace Yourself. Whatever quality of Space you are already able to Cavitate, Hold, and Navigate, you keep opening Doorways for others to take over your job. This way your Gremlin is not occupied with 'defending your position' in some imagined 'hierarchy' because: there is no hierarchy. This is a Torus serving you all as a 'spaceship', being piloted by a skilled Team for exploring new Spaces together, to bring the Treasures you find back to your people. Each new Space is not a 'means to an end' but rather a further dimension of Discovery.
You can Replace Yourself in two ways: 1. Send people from your Circle to Spaceholders at other Circles who are sourcing what that person needs now. 2. Empower others in your own Circle to take over and deliver the valuable contributions you are making. Successfully replacing yourself includes the tradition that whoever replaces you is already training others to replace themselves, so that Replacing Yourself is a central characteristic of your culture. Then your Evolutionary gameworld proceeds to fly.
Because you now carry so little Baggage, it is possible for E.C.C.O., your Bright Principles, and your Archetypal Lineage to easily grab you unexpectedly by the scruff of your neck, lift you straight up out of whatever current life you have, and drop you into a different life where you would be best used next. This life is not yours, of course, but you have definitely transcended mere survival by serving something greater than yourself. Keep breathing while the bottom falls out from under your feet. You have now become one of the three Handsome Holy Tribal Men (or Women) falling into a bottomless pit... There is nothing cool about this.
What if the Experiment works... but you are afraid to look at the results?